2009 gone

Well 2009 is almost a wrap and I have so much to look forward to in 2010, and I can't wait. New job, new bussiness venture, same family but hopefully more love. I just want to say to eveyone who is down for me and even if you not and pretend you are have a very wonderful New Year and may 2010 be better than 2009.-------->on to the next one. See ya next yr. Smooches

Dedicated to Jason E. Mayo

We both loved 2Pac and even at your funeral we made sure that was know with the poem from Pac. I believe you would of had it no other way.

RIP Jay 8-24-77 to 12-24-02

There are not too many days that go by where you don't cross my mind. I sometimes feel your presence, and I do believe that you are an angel sent to protect your love ones. Tears flow as I write this, I miss you so much. You see many times we take life for granted and we forget how prescious it is. Sometimes I just want one last laugh with you, one last hug, one last I love you, but I know that can't be, so I cherish the memories that I have of you. There was so much that we shared and at times when I need someone I think of you. I guess you never realize how much a person affects your life until they are taken away. I live my life knowing that one day when I meet my demise I will be able to see you again, hug you again, and laugh with you again. Until then I will just hold the fond memories you left me with.

Let me find out

So Pac Man is refusing to get his blood drawn to be tested for drugs before his mega-fight with Mayweather, so this makes me question Pac Man. Pac let me find out you are using roids, I surely hope not. Hummm makes you wonder.

Thugin Throw back/Onyx - Last Dayz

One of my favorite songs of all times.

What if....

Now ladies lets say you were having a good night with your gentleman friend and you guys are getting all hot and heavy and it's about to go there. You two are rolling all around pulling each others things off, and then you see them...


What do u do?
Do you
A. run to the nearest exit/if home you kick him out
B. laugh until you almost pee on yourself
c. just carry on as if nothing ever happened

Remember when...

Awwwh remember when Mary Kate and Ashley were so cute. I was just looking at pics of them, what in the world happened? Ugh. When becoming famous too young goes wrong LOL Maybe it's just the outfits,idk!

Gangsta Boo Ft. Three 6 Mafia - Where Dem Dollars At (16:9) VIDEO (HQ)

Wow Gangsta Boo get popped for armed robbery of a dollar store. Yes you read right a dollar store. I guess she really wanted to know "Where dem dollars at." Ummm Boo they are not at the dollar store that's for sure, rofl, go hard or go to jail for dumb stuff. Really is it that bad out here? Ugh! I'm telling you for everyone that comes out three go in wtf is going on?

What in the world

I don't talk about people's marriages but I do talk about there fashion choices, what in the world is going on here. LMAO! Well Congrats anyway.

My new favorite video

Find more videos like this on ThisIs50.com : IF IT'S HOT IT'S HERE!

Bose system Bumpers (Tues albums)

Chris Brown "Graffiti"

Gucci Mane "The State Vs Radric Davis"

Clipse "Til the Casket Drops"

Snoop Dogg "Malice N Wonderland"

Dedicated to Big Pimpin (A 5's)

Even on the court we stay fly....

On my R&B ...ish

Where was this song when I needed it Ha. I remember nights laying in bed crying myself to sleep over a break-up wondering how was I going to pull through, and where was I going to find the strength to get through the heart ache. But in the end that situation made me a better stronger woman. Yeah I am superwoman, I going to get a purple spandex outfit and rock it (imagine) rofl. Love this song!

Co-Sign

I love me some Banks and it sounds like he is coming back with some heat, woooooo, Im pumped right now! (owwwwww Maxx B voice)

And they wonder why...

And they wonder why people look at us like a bunch of buffoons. I realize that you can do whatever you want to do with your money, but instead of investing money into something that is going to benefit your family and generations to come, Negros are walking around with Frosted Flake boxes on their necks. UGGGGh SMFH!

An Emotional Iverson

People can laugh all they want about Iverson crying over his career, but the truth is when you love to do something and reality has just hit you that you will not be doing it anymore it's a hard pill to swallow. Father time waits on no man, and I'm sad to see him leave after this season. Hopefully Philly will retire his jersey and he will find peace with the decisions that he has made and realize that he meant a lot to this game, but it's just that his time is up. Much love A.I.

Allen Iverson Back to where it started

Iverson is one of the most electrifying players to ever touch the court, even though he will probably never win a championship, he will always be remembered for his heart and playing though adversity. Say what you want about A.I. but he is definitely a legend. Iverson is back in Philly to end his NBA career where it all started. Allen E. Iverson the man, the player, The Answer!
Achivements
Rookie of the Year 1996-97
Ten time NBA All Star
All Star MVP 2001
All Star MVP 2005
NBA MVP 2000-2001
Scoring title 1998-99, 2000-2001, 2001-2002,& 2004-2005
Olympic Bronze medal 2004

Tales from the scale (part 1)

So you know all of Thanksgiving weekend I was pigging out. So now I'm back to my daily grind and trying to reach my weight loss goal. I only have 20lbs (rofl) to be where I want to be. So here goes nothing. I need to lose this weight before I go away on my vacation in Feb. Day one of starting over this should be fun. Off to the treadmill ugh!

Getting into the holiday Spirit Elf style

Send your own ElfYourself eCards

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SMH

There is not much to say about this...
Eastern Conference
Team GB
1. * Orlando --
2. * Boston 0.5
3. * Cleveland 1.5
4. Atlanta 1.5
5. Miami 4.0
6. Milwaukee 4.5
7. Charlotte 6.0
8. Chicago 6.0
9. Indiana 6.0
10. Toronto 7.0
11. Detroit 7.5
12. Washington 7.5
13. Philadelphia 8.5
14. New York 10.5
15. New Jersey 13.5



Western Conference
Team GB
1. * Phoenix --
2. LA Lakers 0.5
3. * Dallas 2.0
4. * Denver 2.0
5. Portland 3.0
6. San Antonio 4.0
7. Utah 4.5
8. Houston 5.0
9. Oklahoma City 5.0
10. Sacramento 5.5
11. LA Clippers 6.5
12. New Orleans 7.0
13. Memphis 8.0
14. Golden State 8.0
15. Minnesota 12.0

Wakness of the Week

Why must we be subject to this nonsense? Really? And he had the nerve to put T-pain voice on this, SMH this has to be a joke it has to be! Really I want the paper work for my record deal at my desk first thing, tomorrow! UGH Tell me why rofl

Snoop Dogg "I Wanna Rock" Music Video

I have been bumping this song for over a month now finally a video for it. Why Jamie Foxx is in it I don't know but the song is Fireeeeeeee! And the dances in this video are crazy they getting it!

Kissing, YUCK!

Say what you want about me and about my opinions but this one I believe with everything in my heart. Kissing has got to be one of the most intimate things that you can do with a person. To be honest I probably had more sexual partners than kissing partners. I know at first that sounds funny or slutty but think about it, when you kiss someone you are kissing everyone they have kissed, everyone they licked, everyone they have drunk after, eaten after, and even worst if they don't have a dental plan or brush and floss on a daily imagine all that bacteria that has built up ewwwwww, I just don't need that in my life. Maybe if they invented condoms for kissing. Ha imagine that! Well with all these people walking around with herps on their mouths talking about they got cold scores LOL, oh please that is just another form of herpes honey stop fronting. Keep your mouth to yourself please.

On My R&B ish (Jade," Don't walk away")

What a shame I remember when I wanted them braids. SMFH

Rush hour thoughts

I'm always day dreaming or thinking of random things while I drive to work each morning. So today I'm like dang you got to be kidding me is Christmas really almost here. Every single year I say to myself I'm going to start shopping for Christmas in August and I never do. Each year my family seems to get bigger and bigger so I'm like dang let me see how many kiddies are in the family now...counting 10 girls and 1 one the way, 6 boys and 1 on the way. You do the math. Now does that answer the question to everyone why I don't need to have anymore kids, there are enough in the family for Asia to play with and the oldest is 11 and the youngest two are 7 months, and two coming in the beginning of 2010. Pretty soon I will have to start shopping a yr in advance. UGGGGHHH I love the kiddies though! Kisses to my nieces and nephews
Ke-shawn Jr (8), Tresure (6), Chanel (5), Breeanna (7 months), Tamia (11), Destiny(9), Tea (5), Mateo (7 months), Angel (8), Marquis (4 soon), Mia (2), Yannna(1), Lavon (10), Hakim (7) Qincy (7) Iysis (3), and Michael and Isabella coming soon.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving 2008 I love my family

I want to wish everyone a very Happy Thanksgiving. I'm a little sad because I'm at work (blahhh) but that is time in a 1/2 so I got to get that money. But I'm mainly sad because I'm not with my family (in Albany). There is nothing like seeing my mom and my dad, sibling, grandparents, all my nieces and nephews, aunts, uncles and my cousins. It is always nice to see everyone and to be in the presence of love. We have a family tradition that before we eat Thanksgiving dinner we stand around the table and all give thanks, so since I can't be with my family today, I will say my thanks here.
I'm thankful for my family, my health, my job, and just for being able to see another day. Many times we take for granted this thing called life and how easily it can be taken away. So for all my family that is no longer with us and looking down from the Heavens, I miss you and have a Happy Thanksgiving.

The AMA Pitty Party

I dvr most things now days and the AMA's were no exception. So today when I took a look at the AMA's from last night I was just disgusted, grant it I don't know much about this Taylor Swift girl but the Kayne incident and that someone broke up with her via text last year, or something to that effect. She really racked up last night and I just can't help but to think if it's because everyone is feeling bad for her not having her moment to shine at the MTV awards earlier this year but really everyone get over it pls!

(Jermaine getting his shine on LOL)

And then we have Michael Jackson (R.I.P.) but really no one is America was feeling him like that until he died. Everyone had cast him out as some freak and a molester, so now people want to act like they had so much love for him. And SMH big time at Jermaine Jackson for his hair and for naming his sons Jermagisty, Jafar, and Jeremy (what in the world). OK Jermaine fall back a little I'm really tired of seeing that slick back hair uggggh!

Beanie Sigel "How I Could Just Kill Jigga Man" [Jay-Z Diss]

WOW,WOW. Rap beef is alright as long as it stays on wax, but now we want to kill Jigga Man. I do not co-sign this behavior but lol at him saying boy like 20times. Really I can't...

Wishful thinking!

The Knicks make bad decision after bad decision NO AI for the knicks. AWh Man Damn! What are they thinking over there, not about winning any games I guess!

Is he the Answer?

The rumor mill is buzzing pretty loudly about Allen Iverson coming to the Knicks. Iverson is no longer a Grizzly he was put on leave and never to return as of Monday. Even though A.I. is past his prime I do believe that he will help the Knicks get a few wins for the season because Duhon is not doing. We need someone running the point that can make plays happen or that is not afraid to get inside the paint. I do however realize this by no means spells championship or the playoffs but it will give the city of New York a little boost from this slump that we are in. This season can we please just get a few more wins, and next season rebuild.

Please tell me why? My white shirt

OK I need someone to tell my why every time I wear a white blouse or a white sweater to work dumb people have to come up to me and touch me on the shoulder like they can't talk to me without touching. What is that all about? I really have an issue with people not knowing boundaries, you can't just go around touching people, I mean come on! So now I'm the crazy angry one for saying "do u mind?" or for moving my shoulder. Well once I did grab someones hand and told them to never touch me again. What's the problem was I wrong? LOL But really people you need to learn some boundaries and keep your hands to yourself! Didn't your mother ever teach you anything while your were humping her! Geeesh! I know, I know, I'm so out of line.

DJ Kay Slay ft Ray J, Yo Gotti, Jim Jones and Busta

Can someone pls get Ray J. some singing lessons, Jimmy a bath and Busta a stylist, I mean really Busta Bust a sun visor (they still make those) ugh smh

On My R&B ...ish

Jodeci Freek N You
This song just does something to me, I can't even explain.

The Adventures of Mom and Flat Stanley

OK, so two weeks ago I get a paper home from my daughter's school informing us (the parents) that the kids have been reading a book called "The Adventures of Flat Stanley." OK cool right? NO wrong. Now the school sends home a piece of paper with Flat Stanley on it and wants the kids to give it to someone special to take Flat Stanley on Adventures and to top it off it is suggested that the special person take pictures with him. So you know of course I get elected to be that special person. Pissed at first about my election I did not want to take this Flat Stanley character anywhere with me. I don't even know what I'm suppose to get out of doing this but nevertheless this is going to reflect on my baby's grade average so I have to just suck it up and do it.
Flat Stanley found himself all around the town, attending the Yankees' Ticker Tape Parade, at the Knicks and Cavs game and he even atempted to assist me with walking the dog (that did not go well). It was rough for Flat Stanley and I but we made it through. From my brother giving him the finger to my dad saying "Oh God, not that damn Flat Stanley again." LOL the things you will do for your children. (SMH) I was not the only fool taking picture with Flat Stanley so it was not all that bad. I guess this is something to just laugh at, cause I know people were laughing. (Side bar of course I did not hand in the photo with my brother putting his middle finger in the picture, what kind of mom do you think I am?) LOL
(Edsall's finger, Gabby and Flat Stanley)

(My Mom and Flat Stanley) Dad said, "Make sure I'm not in this picture."

(Matt and Flat Stanley)

(Flat Stanley mad the Knicks are getting whopped out)

(Tai and Flat Stanley)

(Poor Flat Stanley)

Bold but maybe too bold..Rihanna's "Russian Roulette"

While Rhianna has been on the dark side for a little while now, I don't think that this video and all it's symbolism is sending the right message to her fans. Being that she just came out of a domestically abusive relationship and she is trying to show woman empowerment through her music and her videos, I don't believe that everyone will get it. (I do have my own feelings about the whole Chris Brown and Rhianna situation but that will be left unsaid.) Domestic abusive situations do leave you in a very gloomy and dark place and I applaud her for not running from it, but she does have to take into account that there are those who are not head strong enough to know the difference in symbolism and reality. I hope this does not come with a lot of backlash for her.

Dang it must be good 50 cent and Vivica A. Fox on the set of 50's new video "Do you think about me"

After all that was said and done, well manly said and done by Vivica from her dissing him on radio shows to the alleged stalking at his Connecticut compound, it seems that these two may not be on bad terms after all. Maybe it's just business but they do look awfully cozy. Who knows. "Before I self Destruct" will be realesed on 11/16/09 and is available on itunes now.

And the winner is...

Wow what a fight, well at least for the first half of it. Cotto was down twice but he kept coming. As the fight went on Paq started to pick apart Cotto and the fight became a shut out. I did not want Cotto to win but towards the end of the fight I began to feel bad for him. So it seems that speed privaled over power tonight. Congrats Manny and bring on Mayweather so we can really see who is pound for pound the best.

(Fight night) Who is going to win?

Really I can't call this one. I usually have a prediction and 9 times out of 10 I'm right, but I really can't pick this time around. I want Manny to win but tonight it will be strength (Cotto) vs speed (Manny). I do believe it going to come down to who wants it's more and who fights a smarter fight. While Manny is favored to win, I just can't see a clear winner in my mind. Manny might come in a be too quick for Cotto to catch but on the other hand Cotto could catch Manny slipping and catch him flush with a right hook. I guess tonight we will find out. I will have my hot coco in hand along with my note pad and pen keeping score. Round by round we will find out who the winner is going to be. (see weigh-in blow)

Why do people care?

Every time I turn around it seems like someone has something negative to say about superstars and their relationships. I understand that a lot of media outlets just want to gossip but sometimes it just gets out of hand. I think a lot of the times, writers forget that these are people's lives that they are talking about. Some are so quick to judge and say things like, "oh that can't be love", or "he/she is not good enough to be with him or her". "Why is that old woman with that young man." But I say who really cares? Love does not come with a face or an age or how much hair you have. Weather we believe that some of these relationships or marriages are for publicity or connivance that is not our place to say so, because there are people who get married everyday for connivance. Weather it's the girl marrying the older man with money for stability or an old couple marrying for companionship, the fact is people do it everyday without being held under a microscope. While I must say it is fun to watch I don't think it is anyone business what reasons people are together. Just mind your own!

A bit cocky aren't we?

While I love Lebron James, I am a bit upset with him suggesting that Micheal Jordan's number (23) should not be worn by anyone in the league to pay respect to one of the greatest players and arguably the greatest player to play the game. I understand the sentiment behind it but what really put a bitter taste in my mouth was Lebron's statement last night after the game in Miami,"I feel like no NBA player should wear 23. Nobody. If I’m not going to wear No. 23, then nobody else should be able to wear it.
”Uhhhh Sir who do you think you are? Because your not going to wear it nobody should be able to, get over yourself please.
Yes they need to pay repect to Jordan but Lebron you need to fall back younging. If that is what you want to do to pay a tribute to him then do so, but don't force your views on others. Everyone does not believe that Jordan was the greatest and everyone is entitled to their opioion. So Bron Bron you pay respect your way and let others pay in their way.

Another Rapper plays a role on OZ aka prison

Gucci Mane has violated his probation and was sentenced to a year in prison. Meanwhile his album "The State vs. Radrick Davis" is due to drop soon and he is going to be locked up. I guess he will do his promoting behind bars. SMH As Gucci tells his cell mate to cop his CD or get shanked. WOW! Really people do not learn. What does it take? You can't be a rapper/thug. Please choose one and stick to it. Waves to Lil Wayne and Gucci.

R.I.P. My Poor Knicks

Free Myspace Generators

Wow the Knicks are now 1-8 the only team to have a worst record in the league is the Nets with their 0-8 record. Where did the road turn people? Ughh this is going to be a long season, I can't even bare to watch.

Dirty Money "Love come down"

It's that dirty money. Fyi I'm getting a grill ha

Omarion ft. Gucci Mane - I Get It In (Official Video)

Does anyone sing anymore, dang I'm not really sure how I feel about this song, but I can say GUCCI LOL

On my R&B ish...

P.M. Dawn -- Die Without You
Just how I'm feeling right now

Knicks -vs- Cavs (This is going to be a long season)

I guess it was just wishful thinking for me to conger up thoughts that the Knicks pre-season would determine how well they would do in the regular season. Last night the Knicks faced the Cavs and all I can say is Lebron James.
With all of New York City on a high from the Yankees winning the World Series there was a bit of hope in the air that the winning streak would transfer over from one New York team to another.
Madison Square was packed last night with all types of celebrities and fans. Some to get a glimpse of the Lebron and Shaq duo and others die hard Knicks fans. During a break in the game, highlights of retired Knick players flashed on the screen. Goose bumps filled my arms watching all those great moments. Charles Oakley, Antony Mason and Larry Johnson were in attendance which also served as a reminder of the better days, but those better days seem to be so far behind the Knicks right now. Hopes of playoff contention don’t seem to be in the future either. With the Knicks losing to the Cavs their record is now 1-5 and they are in 14th place in the Eastern Conference.
I still have major questions about the decisions that are made by coach D'Antoni. He always seems to take players out the game when they get hot. Last night rookie Jordan Hill came off the bench and was playing great defense and scored two buckets his first few minutes on the floor, only to be taken out of the game moments later, and did not receive another second of playing time for the duration of the game. I really don’t understand the logic of the coaching, if something is working why not stick to it?
With the Knicks sites on a big name player next year and the restructure of the franchise it seems like this may just be a wasted season. I understand that next season is the primary focus, but can they at least win a few more games this year, keep the game competitive, and keep the fans excited for the season to come. My sites are set on seeing the Knicks have a Ticker Tape Parade one day, I just hope that day is not too far away. I guess I will have to wait for next season to find out, but no matter what I'm still riding with the Knicks and we will get that Ticker Tape one day and I will be there even if I'm 90 years old in a wheelchair!

Dame Dash Wants No Part in Brewing Beef

I just don't even know anymore. Dame seems to be taking the high road, is that because he is an alleged thief. This is all so sloppy ugh!

Dame Dash Wants No Part in Brewing Beef(click Link)

Trey Songz- I Invented Sex (Official Video)

All I can say is FATHER FORGIVE ME!

Shyne Po AKA Jamal Burrows AKA Moses Levi breaks his silence

I'm happy for Shyne or whatever he wants to call himself. Hopefully he can reach some of the youth. Even though he was locked down for 9yrs he seems to have a positive outlook on life and I wish him the best. Sidebar you know I have to throw grease, why is his lawyer talking about who he represented, what is he looking for more clients? Both ppl you represented did jail time; guess you’re not the greatest lawyer, lol. Sir you need to be on fall back status SMH!

50 Cent x Beanie Sigel Interview with the Hot Boys in Philadelphia PT 1

50 Cent x Beanie Sigel Interview with the Hot Boys in Philadelphia PT 2

**Beanie Sigel - Average Cat(Jay Z Diss)[Dirty Version]**

I am loving this right here. Hip-Hop beef is always good for record sales and publicity stunts, or for whatever ppl have lined up, but question when does beef become dry snitching. Is Beans dry snitching? UMMMMMMM my answer is yes ROFL I love it! I'm not saying but I'm just saying he is going in. (No name no blame) Seems like Jay and Dame was making some real bitch moves over there. LMAO at Jay calling the cops at the Power House concert. But Beans seems real hurt and that is the messed up part. When fame and money goes to person's head how they will do you dirty just to protect their money and their fame instead of looking out for the ones who have been by you and that were loyal to you. I hope Beans can get his ish right, and if Jay is a real dude like he claims he needs to get at his "friend" and make things right. Karma is a mugg SMH at all the fakery that is spreading like wild fire.

Rihanna – “Wait Your Turn” New Release

Check out Ri Ri's new joint

The Beanie Sigel Call That Goes in on Jay-Z, Dame Dash, and the Whole Roc Operation

Dang Jay-Z and Dame making Diddy moves by doing niggas dirty. SMH. Just remember the same people you meet going up are the same people you meet on your way down.



The Beanie Sigel Call That Goes in on Jay-Z, Dame Dash, and the Whole Roc Operation…Says He Respects 50 Cent and How He Took Care of G-Unit

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New Chris Brown "I can transform ya"

Check the Rhyme Ya'll Part 3 Stack Bundles

10/21/82 to 6/11/07
This weeks Check the Rhyme is special. I want to take a second to honor Stack (Stacky)Bundles and say Happy Birthday. Dude was one of the hottest lyricist ever and was so smooth with his delivery. I remember one of the first times I spoke to him, and I was telling him that I was digging a joint he did on a mix cd. He just laughed and was like "that was a throw away I was not even trying to even go hard that night. I did not even what to do that shit!", we both laughed. SMH RIP Stack you are truly missed.



"Suppose to 36 but we only had 9, getting em for 6 letting em go for 9 (900). That's 3 dollars multiply it by 9 that 2,700 every mother fucking time. Such a hell of a grind, every nickle and dime, a nickle and dime went to helping a nigga shine, heated seats helping a nigga recline, his and hers no body sitting behind." -Salute Me

"I'm comfortable home for Far Rock to roam, from RedFern to Hammels in open toe sandals. Play the corner kitty kitty on our ring tones. Sippin Nutcrack in the middle of Kingdom, I slang zones son a rapper I'm not, put words together just so happen I'm hot." -For Certain

"I leave a white trail follow the nose, gorgeous gangsta around just follow the hoes." -Ya Dig

"Kitchen so hot you could see a mirage, and a nigga move like he envisioning bars. You don't think I'm getting kitty you should see the garage, engine in the trunk you should see the Gallard, yellow ass stones you should see the shapod, pull out the camera phone you can see a manage." -Cold Rockin it

Taking a look in the mirror (Self love and acceptance)

I went to see the Chris Rock documentary "Good Hair," about a week ago. The movie touched on a lot of different things but what really stood out in my head was the perception that we have of our selves as black women and the things that shaped who we are, like the images that are on TV and the house holds we come from. It also posed a deeper question to me. What is beauty to you, and what perception of beauty do you project in your household?

From a young kid to an adult I have had almost everything done to my hair, from a jerry curl (shut up), to a long weave, relaxer, braids, natural, you name it I may have had it. Now that I'm older I prefer and occasional weave but I need my hair relaxed at all times. I never really thought of it as not embracing who I am at all, I just feel that I like my hair a certain way and that is how I am going to wear it. But then I started to think about my daughter, she is 7 years old now and she goes to the salon every two weeks to get her hair washed and braided. I personally love her hair fresh out of braids, wavy and natural but her father is always calling her Macy Gray and laughs at her hair but I think she is getting use to that now. Sometimes she will even go out with her hair in an Afro. Even with that being said she comes from a very big family and a lot of her cousins are mixed in nationality so I wondered how that has effected her and what is her perception of beauty?

So when I picked her up from the bus stop we did are usual kisses and hugs and how was your day, but as I pulled up to the house I turned off the car and I said, "Pooh, I want to ask you something and I want you to answer this as best as you can." She gave me a look of curiosity and said, "What mommy?" Ok now I'm thinking oh no what if she says something way out of left field, that I'm not ready for, oh well here goes nothing. "So what makes a person pretty to you Pooh." "Humm?" she says as she looks puzzled. I began to reassure her that she can answer as honest as possible. So she goes on to tell me," Well first it's the hair, you can have long hair, curly hair, braids, I like it when people have braids and the back straight down, that is pretty to me. Oh yeah even some short hair cuts are nice too." So I decide to take it a step further and ask her "Well what about skin color." (I mean come on y'all you know most of us grew up thinking light and curly was the bomb and some still believe that to this day). Bracing myself I'm ready for her answer. She seemed nervous but she proceeds, "Brown skin is pretty like me, all browns are nice." I began to smile "White skin is pretty too, like my cousins Tresure and Angel but white white skin ewww I don't like white skin mommy it is not pretty at all." As we walk into the house she then says, "Oh yeah and being too skinny or too fat is not pretty, people should be skinny like me but not to fat that they can't breath." I laugh and we both leave the conversation outside of the door.

A few days later I think back to this conversation and I'm saying to myself damn I missed the big picture. I was so elated that my baby embraces who she is I forgot to teach her the bigger lesson of embracing others for who they are. I should have told her that it is great to believe you are pretty, and that she is pretty but not just for her looks. I should have told her how proud I was of her for loving herself, but that we are all pretty in some way shape or form. I should have told her that beauty is not only because you have long or short, straight or curly hair, weather you are fat or skinny but beauty comes from within. I know sometimes it sounds like a load of crap but sit back and really think about it. Sometimes you can see the prettiest girl or the fliest dude but they have the most jacked up attitude, and that can change your whole image of that person. So I guess today on our ride home we will have a talk about acceptance. Acceptance of ourselves and others around us. I'm by no means the parent of the year but I do believe if we teach our children acceptance and tolerance at an early age as well as self love the world may not be the greatest place but it surly would be a better one.